Maggie Blogs

My five-year-old daughter Maggie told her daddy the other day that she wanted a blog.  We had a talk about it, and she has decided to become a blogger.  You can read her thoughts at Maggie’s Blog.  She tells me what to write, and I type it for her.  I didn’t change any of her words.  I did provide links to clarify what she was talking about for those who might be unfamiliar with some of the subject matter (i.e. Baby Bottle Pops).  She chose the template from several I showed her.  I created her links.

She loves her blog.  She composed her first post today, and she has been pestering me to “do” her blog since then.  I think she’ll probably be more prolific than I am, if her excitement today is any indication.

Stuff

Our Field Day was Friday, and I did things I should not have done considering the shape I’m in, but the good news is our team won. Go Light Blue! Woooo!

My sister is on MySpace after mocking me about it, but that’s OK. I will link her if she gives me permission and maybe she’ll let you be her friend.

The 9/11 tribute 2,996 is already rolling, and many bloggers have their tributes up already. Mine will appear tomorrow morning at 8:46. I have the honor of remembering Eric Andrew Lehrfeld, who was in the North Tower on the 106th floor at 8:46 when American Airlines Flight 11 hit the tower. Be sure to check back tomorrow, and please read the posts of the other 2,996 bloggers.

The Power of Genealogy

Today has been a great day for me in terms of genealogy research.  I reconnected with Steve Cunningham, who descends from my great-great-grandfather Amos’s brother Charles Cunningham, and we shared some stories and photographs.

I was also thrilled to discover the family of my great-great-grandmother Stella Bowling Cunningham’s former fiancé, John William Tolleson.  I wrote about it on my genealogy blog.  Go check it out!

Making connections like these across the generations and getting glimpses of the lives of our ancestors is so exciting.

Named After

I am not named after anyone. I think my mother knew a girl named Dana in high school and liked the name. Incidentally, the story behind Sarah’s middle name is the same. There are two main schools of thought on naming children after others:

  1. Children deserve their own identities separate from that of relatives and should have a different name from all other family members.
  2. Naming children after family members, friends, or other people one admires is a way of honoring that person and connecting one’s child to the past.

While I see the point of proponents of position one, I tend toward position two. I think it is interesting to look at naming patterns in families, and it can be one way to help make connections. For instance, the given name “Martin” is so popular in Steve’s family, that when I ran into some Huffs who used the name “Martin” in the area where his grandfather was born in my genealogy research, I was fairly certain there was a connection. As it turns out, the name Martin has been in his family for at least 200 years. The earliest ancestor of his that I can find was Martin Hough, who was born about 1805. His grandson was named Samuel Martin Hough (and he changed the spelling of the last name to “Huff”). Samuel Martin’s grandson was Will Martin Huff, and Will Martin’s son was Ben Martin Huff. Ben Martin’s son Jack named one of his sons Martin. I’m sure each generation used the name to honor the person who had the name in the preceding generation. In other words, I believe that Steve’s uncle Jack named his son in honor of his father, not realizing the name Martin stretched back across eight generations.

I don’t think I have any names in my family like that, but there are cases in which relatives have been named for ancestors. My uncle is named for his grandfather. My aunt’s middle name is my grandfather’s first name. There are other names in my family that have some meaning, but do not honor an ancestor. My sister, for instance, was named after a character in the movie Dr. Zhivago. My mother was named for a girl that my grandfather thought was pretty.

Then there are the comic examples. My father was named after a cousin of his mother’s, who told her that he’d buy her a box of candy if she named my dad after him. That one doesn’t beat my school colleague’s mother naming her and her brother after the new monkeys at the zoo, but it makes me giggle.

My children’s names all have significance in that they are named after people or things that are important to me. Sarah’s name comes from Fleetwood Mac’s song “Sara”; however, I like the spelling with the “h” better, so I used that one (even thought the song doesn’t). Maggie is named for her grandmother, although I will admit I really wanted to name her Stella after my great-great-grandmother. Steve didn’t want to, though, because I guess he used to know a girl named Stella whom he disliked. Her name seems to fit her, and I can’t imagine her being something besides Maggie now. Dylan is named for both the poet Dylan Thomas and my father, which I suppose means he is (after a fashion) named thusly because my grandmother’s cousin bribed her with a box of candy.

My maternal grandfather was named for a book character. My paternal grandfather’s given name was changed (along with his surname) when he was adopted. I found that odd, as he was about nine when it happened. As far as I know, neither one of my grandmothers was named for anyone, but one of my cousin’s middle names is the same as my maternal grandmother’s middle name.

It seems it was the fashion in times past to name the older children after relatives. After the supply of relatives one felt like honoring dwindled (and people had 12 or 13 children), new names entered the family. I think this is the case with my great-great-grandfather Amos. His older brothers and sisters were named for grandparents, aunts, and uncles. He’s the earliest Amos in his family. Of course, I have six other people with some variation of Amos (either first or middle) in my family tree after him.

Then again, names seem to go in and out of fashion. I wonder how odd it will be to have older women named Kaylee and Madison instead of Margaret or Betty. I think some people don’t consider the fact that a name sounds somewhat juvenile when they name their children. The child will grow up and have to deal with that name. I also don’t understand why some folks give their child the diminutive form of the name. For instance, naming a child Bobby instead of Robert. If you name him Robert, you can call him Bobby when he’s little. When he grows up, he can use the more adult-sounding Robert.

Personally, I’ve always kind of liked my name. When I was little, I felt singled out because I was the only Dana in school, but as I grew, I met more Danas. That was the only reason I didn’t care for my name when I was little.

Where’d you get your name from? What do you think of it?

Back to School

As you may recall, Maggie started kindergarten this week.  Predictably, she is having trouble adjusting.  She didn’t do very well behavior-wise — she was “rolling on the floor,” “talking during instruction,” and “screaming in the halls.”  That sounds like Maggie.  She is stubborn, headstrong, and loud.  Hopefully we can work out the kinks as she gets used to school.  She has already told me that she’s had “enough school.”  But she does like her teacher, and she appears to have made friends.

My school does not resume until after Labor Day so that contractors can finish our new building.  In fact, we will not be conducting pre-planning in our new building.  I admit I am disappointed I won’t have time to decorate my room and get it ready, but we will be allowed to work from home, library, the old school, or even Starbucks if we want to in compensation (that is, as long as we have no meetings).

So far, Dylan hasn’t seemed bothered by the fact that Maggie is gone during the day, but I think once I go back (especially as he and Daddy will have to drive Maggie to school), he will start missing everyone.

Girl Scouts

Girl Scout LogoNext week, I’m going to an organizational meeting for Girl Scouts.  I am going to try Maggie out in Daisies and see if she likes it.  They didn’t have Daisies when I was in Girl Scouts.  I started out in Brownies in second grade.  My school in first grade didn’t have a troop, so I was in Campfire Girls (Blue Birds).  When I was in second grade, I sold the most cookies in my troop.  I earned a Super Seller badge.  My troop leader ran off with the cookie money, but I flew up to Juniors and was placed in a new troop, so I guess I didn’t let this experience get me down.  I earned so many badges as a Junior that I couldn’t fit them on my sash and had to use a vest.  I still have it.  I quit Girl Scouts in sixth grade because I had convinced myself that I would be a first class geek if I stayed in through middle school.  I regret quitting and wish I had stayed in, now.

Sarah was in Daisies, and she seemed to enjoy it a lot.  We went camping with her troop at a Girl Scout camp, and it was a lot of fun.  We went fishing and Sarah caught a turtle.  She missed out on Brownies, and when I asked her as a fifth grader if she wanted to try to get into Juniors, she told me “I’d rather eat dirt.”  Apparently, she didn’t have fun at a Girl Scout camp her dad sent her to one summer.  Oh well.

We’ll see how Maggie likes it.  Come February (assuming Maggie likes it enough to stay in that long), let me know if you want cookies.  It would be kind of cool to have two Super Seller badges in the family.

Maggie’s Friends

Maggie comes up with some really creative names for her stuffed animals. Considering she’s only five years old, I have to say I am continually impressed her her intellect and creativity. I decided to catalog the names of her friends, or her daughters, as she likes to call them. Spellings are my invention, as Maggie is currently unable to write and tell us how the names should be spelled.

  • Mr. Meow-Meow is the oldest. She’s (Maggie insists despite the honorific that Mr. Meow-Meow is not a male cat) an old, formerly-white cat with fur that used to be soft and is now like a pilled sweater. All of her stuffing has been squeezed from the neck area to either the head or body.
  • Miss Tickles is a white kitty as well. Her body is shaped more like that of a real cat.
  • Ooman (rhymes with Newman) is a stuffed C3PO doll that is actually her brothers’. She gave it more than one bath, which took all the gold sheen, leaving a sort of goldish-gray color.
  • Mr. Lumpidoh is a gray elephant.
  • Odie is a small blond puppy with brown ears, one of them torn.
  • Luvinjenner is a hot pink puppy. What a name! It is pronounced the same as “love” & “jenner” like Bruce Jenner. I have no idea.

Steve recently wrote a post about rescuing Mr. Meow-Meow and Odie, who have been trapped down a air conditioning vent that doesn’t seem to be hooked up to the air conditioning system. It seems to open straight down to the crawlspace under the house. I think there may be a way to access the area where they fell from under the house, but the one and only time I went down there, it scared me so bad! Our house is over 100 years old. There is a stone that looks suspiciously like a tombstone at the entrance to the crawlspace. And I’m fairly convinced the place is haunted by mild-mannered spirits. I thought of getting one of those tools folks use to pick up trash on the road, but they were out of them when I went to Home Depot. I never dreamed one could find the right tool at Walgreens!

Update: I had a discussion with Maggie this morning about her stuffed animals.  I forgot to mention Classical Dog, who is a stuffed bassett hound, Bandi, a baby deer who is named for Bambi (at least the way Maggie pronounces it), and Snow White, who is actually a stuffed version of Uga, the mascot for UGA.  It plays the Georgia Fight Song when you squeeze its tummy.

What Do You Think They’ll Ask You About?

Some far day in the future, you might be interviewed by your grandchild for school.  It’s a popular assignment, and one I’ve done myself.  I interviewed my grandfather about the Ku Klux Klan (no, he wasn’t a member, but he had information about it that I wanted to include in a report I wrote).  My great-uncle Alvin interviewed his grandmother about what school was like when she was a girl.  Sometimes genealogists interview their grandparents about family history, as I have done with my maternal grandparents and my great-grandmother.  One day, a grandparent of yours will ask you questions.  What do you think you’ll ask you about?

Mine will probably want to know what I remember about 9/11.  On a personal level, they might want to know about my divorce and remarriage.  Maybe they’ll want to know what life was like before everyone had computers and Internet access.

It would be nice if they could ask me what the world was like before world peace was established and hunger and poverty were abolished, but I fear I won’t see that in my own lifetime.  One can’t watch Star Trek without hoping one day…

I think that just knowing that they care enough about what I think or what I’ve experienced to ask about it will make me happy.

Genealogy

I have mostly been working on my family history research over the last week or so. I do this in spurts. I have one advantage over many other genealogists: I started the hobby when I was much younger than most people do. It’s a lot of fun. I have managed to connect with distant relatives who are doing the same thing, and in many cases they have been very helpful and generous with information and photographs. My distant cousin Joe sent me a nice thank-you e-mail after receiving a copy of my great-great grandmother Stella’s diary. I could tell he was a kindred spirit by the way he reacted to it. He felt the same way about it as I do.

Figuring out where you come from is interesting, but I wish I could see some of these people. I wonder if I look like any of them, or if my kids do. My ex-husband resembles his great-great grandfather in some ways. I see it in the eyes and a bit in the shape of the face. My daughter looks just like her father. Hence:

Sarah

Compare Sarah’s forehead eyebrows, and eyes to her great-great-great grandfather:

John N. Cook

Compare her face shape to her great-great-great grandmother:

Margaret Stewart Cook

I think Sarah looks like she could be their daughter, yet she’s their great-great-great granddaughter. She looks more like them than she does me!

This hobby is fascinating. If you haven’t ever looked into your family history, do it while you’re young. We don’t like to face this, but your best source is your elderly family members. They may not be here when you become interested in genealogy late in life. In my experience, too, they love to tell their stories. Give them a chance.

Blogging Minutiae

We had a little bit of a reprieve from the heat today as it was cloudy and a bit rainy. I took Maggie to the doctor to have her hearing tested. I was surprised to learn they were open on Saturdays. Now we just have to have her teeth checked at the dentist, and she’ll be ready for school registration.

I couldn’t sleep last night. My sleeping schedule always gets messed up during the summer. I am, I suppose, naturally predisposed toward being a night person, but it doesn’t make me feel good about myself. It makes me feel lazy. Logically, I don’t know why it should, as I get the same stuff done on the night shift as I do through the school year (work aside, which can’t be helped as school is out). Maybe it is something in my old Southern farmer blood that insists one must be up with the chickens in order to be a productive member of society. I think it makes me feel kind of blue to be on this schedule. It is sort of a matter of my mind fighting a losing battle with my body.

In the mail today I received my two complimentary author’s copies of English Journal, July 2006 in which my article appears on p. 33. It’s very exciting for me to be published in what is possibly the most influential journal for English teachers. I have pullout quotes and a minibiography and everything!

I was thinking about my great-great grandmother, Stella Bowling Cunningham, again. I don’t know why I am so curious about her in particular among all of my ancestors. Maybe because she was a teacher. But I have had other teachers in the family who don’t pique my interest. I think it might be the journal. I have a photocopy of a journal she kept in 1894-1895. In it, she records mostly minutiae, such as what she purchased that day and how much it cost, who came to visit and what they did, and that sort of thing. Yet mingled in there are significant events, such as her wedding and the death of her grandmother. It’s incredible to be able to read it. I find the smallest detail fascinating. I have struggled with the “who cares” factor with this blog. It isn’t that it bothers me that I don’t have many readers. Some days, I just find myself saying why bother to post that? The fact is, this is my journal. The difference between mine and Stella’s is that I know people look at it, so I have this “audience” hurdle to get over that Stella didn’t. However, Stella could little have realized how special and important someone — perhaps her great-great granddaughter — would find her journal. So from here on in, I hope to post more often, but I can’t promise that it won’t be about what I bought and how much it cost or who came over and what they did.